Friendship .... A bond of love and sacrifice

 

Friendship aka Dosti is a word with unlimited love , sacrifices , emotions sometimes cry and sometimes celebrate. Friendship means familiar and liking of each other's mind.

People who are friends talk to each other and spend time together. They trust one another and also help each other when they are in trouble or are hurt. Friends are people that can be looked up to and trusted. Usually friends have the similar interests. A friend is one who admires a person's skill and helps or encourages them to make the right choices and do not get into any trouble at all.

The strength of the bond of friendship between the two people can be vary with each other. If the bond is very strong, they are called Best friends. This can usually be achieved by possessing the elements of friendship, by being kind, generous, loyal, honest and by having fun. With these qualities you can truly enjoy the bliss of friendship.

There are expectations, demands and complaints in friendship too. If friends don't match with your expectations, it does not mean you will break the friendship. It is all about the understanding, realizing and helping each other whenever possible.

Friendship is both good and necessary part of our life. Man cannot live all alone. He is a social being. He needs someone to share his joys and sorrows. Generally, it is only people of similar age, character and background, mentality, etc., who can understand him and his problems. Friends are needed for support and for sharing.

There are many different types of friendships. Most people find friends at a very young age however it is harder for others.

Why good friends are so important ?

Being a great and good friend to someone and having a friends support your back is good for your well being. Friends will come and go in your life. No matter how long your friendships last, the most important thing is your friends’ acceptance of you for who you are. A good friend walks the talk and shows that they care by their actions whether the situation  is big or small. But what, exactly, makes a good friend, Have you ever think …. ?? Here are the some qualities which a good friend always or generally possess.

A Good friend:

• is there for you, no matter what the situations is
• doesn’t judge you
• doesn’t put you down or deliberately hurt your feelings
• is kind and respectful to you
• is someone whose company you always enjoy
• is loyal to you
• is trustworthy and willing to tell you the truth, even when it’s hard for you to hear
• laughs with you
• sticks around when things get tough
• makes you smile
• is always there to listen
• comforts you when you cry.

How to be a good friend

If you treat the people around you in the ways described above, then you’re already a good friend to them. But it’s not always easy to know how to be there for your friends. So, following the below points a person can be a good friend.

Listen to them
Try to understand a situation from your friend’s point of view. Ask the questions to get a sense of the problem or issue, but the main thing is to listen to him. May be you don’t have  all the answers, and don’t assume that your friend wants yours advice , but listing his to him supports very much and feeling very comfortable.

Get the facts
If your friend has a medical or mental health issue, a good way to offer support is to learn about what they’ve been diagnosed with. Being interested in what they’re going through shows you care, and that you plan to stick around no matter what’s going on.

Ask them what they need
If you’re worried about someone and you want to be there for them, ask them what they need. You’ll then know what they find helpful during tough times, and you can offer them support in a way that’s genuinely helpful.

Get physical
If you’re a hugger, ask your friend whether it’d be okay to hug them. Once you get the thumbs up, hug away! Hugging your friends can be a great way to show you care for them. Physical contact can be comforting, especially when someone feels alone. 

Keep in touch
Even if you don’t live nearby, show your friends you’re there for them by making an effort to keep in regular touch through social media, texts or calls.

Tell them how you feel
You don’t have to make a big deal about it all the time, but you can make a real difference to how someone is feeling just by letting them know how important they are to you. 

Be willing to make a tough call
If you think your friend’s safety is at risk, you might need to act without their consent and get help. It can be a tough call, particularly when you’re worried about how they’ll react, but remember that good friends care enough to step up, and that you’re doing it to protect them from harm.

“दोस्ती निभानी हैं तो निभाओ ऐसी की भगवान भी आकर तुम्हे अपना दोस्त बना ले क्योकि भगवान् जिन्हें खून के रिश्तों में बांधना भूल जाता हैं, उन्हें सच्चे दोस्त बनाकर अपनी गलती सुधारता हैं।”